-Times Are Changing-
|Gone With the Wind - Dating, Romance and Love|
Seniors what is Dating, Romance and Love? Expectations have changed since Caveman and Medieval times. Caveman clubbed a woman over the head dragging her into his cave. It was at the Caveman’s discretion if she remained his permanent mate. In the Medieval times women were a man’s property. It was a young woman’s goal to marry well. Marrying well does not only pertain to financial security for her and future children. It included having a consider spouse. A woman’s destiny depended on marriage. In medieval and modern Europe emphasize was not geared toward a woman’s education but preparing her for marriage. I feel this concept extended to American and lasted until the mid twentieth century. Chivalry and romance beginning in medieval times has been modified over time. Contemporary romance and love has been greatly influence my movies and novels. I think I have seen “Gone with the Wind” twenty or more times. If there was ever a “Knight in Shining Armor” it was Clarke Gable. Movies like “Gone with the Wind” can influence a young girl’s impression of romance, love and ambition. “It Is a Wonderful Life” depicted what romance, love and marriage were supposed to be. The world has changed. The divorce rate in America is approximately 50%. Seniors have active long lives. For what ever reasons: divorce, widowed or never been marriage seniors are active in the dating scene. Senior Dating Online has a surge in membership. Dating online find a large pool of eligible members with the same values, goal, history, religion and moral values. May not meet Clarke Gable or Vivian Leigh type but a compatible mate.
Romance and Love Through Time
In prehistoric times the leader of the pack was the alpha male. He was the strongest, loudest and leader of the pack. The caveman’s method of romance was clubbing the woman and dragging her to his cave. In the cave the alpha-cave man would do what ever he wished with the cave woman. There are no records dating, romance or love. This kind of behavior was common and expected. More than 10,000 years ago women and men did not have the advantages or expectations they have today. Caveman and women tended to monogamous. The reason for monogamy was survival. Monogamy strengthens social structure. Prehistoric men and women had to hunt for their food. They have no permanent homes. They consistently were looking for food and shelter. Mating in prehistoric times provided security for the woman and children. A family working together increased family productivity.
In Medieval times romance was not what we see in the movie with Russell Crowe or Errol Flynn. Elite classes viewed love and marriage as business transactions. Wives brought dowries and some instances the alliance of two countries. Women were usually viewed as the male’s property. A woman whole future depended on her marriage. Moralist in the 11th and 12th century considered passion as sinful. Medieval romance idealized the noble knight and his noble deeds. Romance idealized High Adventure which was usually knights and nobles participating in religious crusades and wars.
Romance in Early Modern Europe
From the 15th century to 18th century was the beginning of the Industrial Revolution. Events from 15th to 18th century invention of printing press, Christopher Columbus, beginning of Protestant Reform, discovery of the Americas, European colonization of the Americas, American Revolution and French Revolution. Elizabeth I reign (1558-1603) height English literature and poetry. During Elizabethan Era William Shakespeare composed plays and poetry. Plays were performs at court. There were three themes for Shakespearean writings comedy, romance and history. Age of Reason or Age of Enlightenment in European philosophy. Romance differed by class. Marriages in the villages had to be strongly approved by both parents. Villagers could marry for love but had other motivations. The male was seeking a hard working mate and someone that could bear children. Woman were seeking security. In noble quarters marriages were arranged to enhance fortunes. The Church had a very strong influence and virginity was seen as the highest mortal award for any single woman. Regardless, of class in modern Europe women sought marriage and security.
America is considered a young country. America is a melting pot of ethnicity's, cultures and traditions worldwide. The leading country in the world. The 19th amendment was passed in 1920 giving women the right to vote. 1928 was the beginning of the Great Depression. During WWII women were allowed in the work force. Men were away fighting in the war. Franklin D. Roosevelt introduces Social Security and the Veterans Bill. In the 1950’s in American economy was booming. In 1960s the birth control pill was approved for contraception. All of these world events have changed the roles of men and women in the society. Women have the freedom of a career, being a wife and mother. It is now acceptable that women are the bread winner’s husbands as stay at home dads raising the children. Be what about romance. Novels, plays and movies have influenced the concept of what romance should be. In the past mates met through family members, in school, socially or at the work place. Date seeking is still social (in bars, parties, churches, through family and friends). There is a new twist. In this age of computers online dating is an acceptable practice. One in Five couples is finding mates online. Senior online dating is tailored exclusively for senior dating. Ages vary but generally average age is 50 years and older. Senior Matchmaking based on compatibility taking dating, romance and loves into the 21st century.